Circles are often used to depict relationships — between couples, amongst family members, within organizations, or in nature. They are an ideal visual for understanding connections and boundaries. This is certainly not a new concept, but a recent conversation with a friend triggered some fresh insights.
She described a healthy relationship as two circles, overlapping slightly like the picture below. One circle does not overtake the other. Unhealthy relationships, on the other hand, overlap so much that there is just a sliver of individuality left for each. This graphic made me think of the moon. Once the idea presented itself, some parallels began to emerge.
Perception and Wholeness. The moon doesn’t actually change shape or size; our vantage point on earth and the sun’s reflection determine its appearance. If I compare my “self” to the moon, it means that I am whole. This is an immutable fact of nature. Therefore, feeling less than whole is simply a matter of perception, not reality.
Dynamics. Rather than visualizing two static circles, like the picture above, I envisioned the moon dancing with its “shadow” following in concert, like a dark moon shifting back and forth beside it. The moon’s constant orbital tango with its shadow partner, seen by watching the waning and waxing quarters and half moons, could represent the importance of both awareness and flexibility. In a healthy relationship, I would anticipate change and quickly adjust to the circumstances. I would naturally know when to allow my needs to take priority or a back seat, depending on my partner and the situation.
Movement and Balance. Of course, dance requires movement. Regardless of where the moon might “stop,” there would be dire consequences. Tides provide an interesting analogy. They are highest at the new and full moons. If the moon ceased to orbit at either of these times, there would be a perpetual high tide — pinned in place by the moon’s gravitational pull. From a relationship perspective, a full or new moon represent one person negating the other. Like the ocean being pulled toward the sky, the relationship would feel tense and exhausting. Extremes are never welcome in nature; retaining balance requires constant change.
Nature is always teaching me something. Full moon tonight — look up and be enlightened!